Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Sometimes love comes around and it knocks you down

Just before I took off for South Africa, I broke up with my boyfriend, the rocket scientist.

We had dated for something like a year and a half, took almost two years off, then tried dating again for about six months. It just wasn't there for us- we are polar opposites in almost every way imaginable. I party like it's 1999. I talk to EVERYONE all the time. I talk about traveling, then half-remember to pack a bag on the way out the door for a trip. I think the world is made up of people who mean well.

Just think of the opposite of all those things and you'll get an accurate picture of him. There is nothing wrong with him as a person, but completely wrong for me. We'll still be friends, but won't try the dating thing ever again. He's completely on board with this plan.

So now... I'm single. I don't think I'm very good at being single. Recently, I realized that I'm one of those girls who is ALWAYS dating someone(s).

But I'm taking a break. No intentional dating. No active online dating. No set-ups between friends. Nada. I'm just going to let love come and sweep me off my feet if it chooses to and let it pass me by otherwise.

I have no timetable. I have no obligation to anyone to be in a meaningful relationship with them. I'm going to enjoy this purposeful singlehood.

But I certainly won't turn down an offer of a kiss from a beautiful stranger on my next vacation. It would be criminal to do so, don't you think?


B.E. Earl said...

I've done a lot of time single and sometimes it is a little more than just a little therapeutic. Sometimes it is necessary.

Grow. Be yourself. Learn. Be wonderful at being yourself. Then move on.

You will do fine.

TC said...

I don't think I'll ever be able to say I dated a rocket scientist.

Bob Dobalina said...

Criminal and morally reprehensible! Go forth and love muchly.

NWO said...

Unintentional dating is definitely the way to go! Makes for good stories!

jo said...

i'm sorry that he didn't turn out to be the right one for you. and it's also nice to just take a break from intentional dating.

but yes, it would be criminal to turn down an offer of a kiss from a beautiful stranger. so kiss and tell :P

Le Meems said...

When it's Forced, it's forced. Set sail, let IT come to you... All natural like!

The Ambiguous Blob said...

BE, thanks I'm sure I'll be fine. It will be interesting to see how this plays out.

TC, you never know! I generally tend to dig super brainiacs, so I'm not surprised that I dated one.

BobD, I'm glad we agree.

NWO, and you'll see the stories that are fit to print.

Jo, of course I'll tell!!!

Meems, no more doing what I think is best for me. Gotta let my heart dictate what it wants.